10 Things What Turns Women Off

Dating can be tough. Every time you approach a woman you’re risking rejection, which can feel awful. But if you’re finding that you’re striking out most often, perhaps you’re doing some things that turn women off.

1. Being Shy

Most women are attracted to strong, confident men. Women understand that you’re a little nervous… that can be cute. But we have to see that you believe in yourself and that you’ve got the ability to be successful.

2. Being Boring

We don’t care about your model cars or your golf game. Strike up a conversation about something that interests us like current events, movies, or great restaurants. Show us that you’re well rounded and interesting or there’s no way we can imagine having dinner with you.

3. Looking Scruffy

Not all attractive men are drop dead gorgeous, but they do take care of their appearance. Your five o’clock shadow, dirty shoes and wrinkled shirt are such turn offs because they tell women that you simply don’t know how to take care of yourself. Go out looking clean and tidy and you’ll have much better luck with the ladies. If you’re meeting someone through adult personals, make sure your photo is top notch.

4. Being at a bar alone

If you’re alone in a bar and conspicuously trying to pick up women, ladies will get very suspicious. Guys in groups are more likely to put women at ease. Go out with both men and women, as well as singles and couples. Women flock to men who are enjoying themselves with friends.

5. Having Dodgy Friends

Even though I just suggested that you surround yourself with friends, be cautious about which friends you choose. Save your rude and rowdy friends for football games. Instead, head out to the bar with some of your more charming and polished friends. Whether you like it or not, who you are with can reflect positively or negatively on you.

6. Over-using a Female Wingman

I’m the first to encourage men to use their female friends to their advantage when trying to meet women. When a woman notices you, by all means, have one of your female friends casually let them know you are single. But for goodness sake, don’t have them trolling the bar for you. When women notice your tactic, you’ll end up looking like a sleazy guy who doesn’t have the balls to meet women on his own.

7. Being Boastful

There are many subtle ways to let women know that you are successful, such as your air of confidence and the way you dress. There is absolutely no need to tell women how much money you make and what a shark you are at your job. Boasting about how wonderful you are will turn women off faster than you can say "investment portfolio."

8. Talking only about yourself

Listen more than you talk. Keep your end of the conversation short and sweet and let her do most of the talking. Women have a lot more to say than men, and we’re always impressed by men who can actually listen and be engaged for any length of time. It’s a small thing but it will make a lasting first impression.

9. Being a zealot about your religious and political beliefs

When it comes to politics and religion, it’s very easy to offend and alienate someone with your views. Save your soap box rants for your next rally and aim for lighter and more amiable topics of discussion.

10. Using Corny Pick-Up Lines

Pick-Up lines are good for a laugh amongst friends but they’re rarely an effective way to make a connection with a woman. You end up coming off so inauthentic and slimy. Instead, start the evening armed with some great conversation starters. Just be your fun, interesting self and leave the pick-up lines to the comedians.

10 Things That Can Turn Off Man

Man have always wanted women to understand them and fully know them. This means women should make and effort to know their like and dislike

The “silent” treatment – most women have a tendency to use “silent” treatment when they are hurt or angry about a certain behavior in their man. They put on a cold front and refuse to reply in a normal manner. The usual reply to all the queries that a guy puts through would be a pert “nothing”. This is highly irritating to men and in many cases it makes them want to tear their hair off. A man would be much happier if his woman is willing to talk out the issues instead of starting a cold war.

Being a cold fish in the bed – Some women, through no fault of theirs, are completely unresponsive in the bed. A guy is bound to feel turned off and frustrated when he finds that he’s the only moving object on the bed. Sex is supposed to be playful and fun, entailing a lot of movements and noises. The more energetic it is, the more fun and pleasurable. There are many women have are very inhibited and shy about their sexuality which ends up making them act like a cold fish when in bed. Most men take it as a personal insult to their sexual prowess.

Facial and body hair growth – Men are hairy all over that’s the very reason why they are attracted to a hairless body in their woman (apart from the head hair and eye brows of course). Most men are turned on by waxed legs and arms, and they are equally turned off if they detect anything hairy on a woman’s body. Facial hair is a complete turn off for most men especially around the chin or lip area. This is not a judgment but a unconscious reaction.

Being overly possessive – Men are usually the “chasers” and they like to stay that way. If a guy finds out a girl is “chasing” him he is bound to lose his interest in her. To keep the guy interested the girl must remain to be a challenge. If she gets overly possessive about him it would just turn him off.

Too religious – Some women tend to get overly religious or spiritual which can be a huge turn off for men. It’s true that there are many men who are religious fanatics, who take their Gods too seriously, but these very men would find it a turn off to be with an overly religious woman, for very obvious reasons.

A nagging attitude – There is something about men that gets women to nag them especially as the relationship ages. Most men complain about the hard time they have contending with the continuous complaints and scorns that their wife dishes out in the name of “self improvement”. Women on the other hand have no clue what the fuss is all about, after all they are only trying to “improve” their man.

Too attached to her family – It’s quite a pain for most men to have to contend with their “in laws” owing to their wife’s obsessive attachment with her parents. There is nothing wrong with being attached to your parents as long as it does not start eating into the personal time that you should be spending with your husband, this is what most men feel. It’s quite frustrating for the guy to find his wife on phone with her mother through most of the evening.

Female chauvinism – A man and a woman are made in the image of god as the Bible puts it. And it’s quite obvious that a man needs a woman to complete him and vice versa. In spite of this there are certain people, in each sex, that end up becoming chauvinistic. A feministic attitude, or a bossy nature, in a woman is what men find extremely irritating, and it’s a big turn off. Many feminists would like men to conform to certain unnatural standards that are completely contrary to a manly nature, a woman who depicts such an attitude would soon find her man running away from her.

A lazy “home maker” – Men have been brought up to look at their woman as their home maker. There’s nothing chauvinistic about it because that was the natural order of things for a long time and it’s deeply embedded in male conditioning. So men love women who are good home makers and are turned off by a woman who expects the man to cook and clean. This may sound harsh to many feminists but this is what men feel inherently. Men are naturally quite bad at “home” management and so they rely on women to play this part in their life.

Too “career” oriented – There are many marriages that have gone into ruins because of the corporate culture of today’s age. It’s quite common for the husband and wife to be employed in most households, and this gives rise to many ego clashes and misunderstandings especially when the man finds his wife becoming too “career centric” to care for her family. Men have traditionally loved the feminine characteristics in a woman and being a home make is one of them. An overly career centric wife is usually a turn off for the man.

So these are the 10 common things that turn off most men. Women can come up with an infinite list of things about men that turns them off, because men quite easily can be the more obnoxious sex in more than one way. The fact remains that men and women complement each other and its beauty is most evident in an intimate, and healthy, relationship.

10 Inspiring Quotes in Relationship

1. It is not DESTINY that determines LOVE, it is CHOICE. Relationship last long not because they’re destined to last long. Relationships last long because two people made a choice, to keep it, to fight for it and to work for it. Other relationships fail not because they’re destined to fail. They failed because one of the two, or both, made the choice- to set each of the other FREE…

 

2. Ever have that one person in your life that you just can't give up on, the one person who can screw you over time after time yet you always seem to give them another chance, and no matter how many times you say this is their last one, you know it's a lie because there's always just one more waiting for them. The one person you know you're better off without but yet you can't find a way to let them go because deep down inside you wouldn't know what to do without them. The one person that you know doesn't deserve you but yet you choose to overlook it... 

 

3.The Greatest Gift U can Give 2 Someone is 2 Give ur Time Coz Whn U r Giving Ur Time ...U r Giving Some Part of Ur Life Which U Never get Back... 

 

4. People always think that the most painful thing in life is losing the one you value..the truth is,the m0st painful thing is losing yourself in the pr0cess of valuing s0me0ne t0o much, and f0rgetting that y0u are special t0o.

 

5. Apologizing does not always mean that you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.

 

6. Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.

 

7. ‎When your feelings get strong for someone, it's always wise to stop for a while and give your heart a time to breathe.. a time to use your mind, to weigh the situation based on reason not on emotion. because the saddest thing can happen when one falls in love while the other one's...not sure of what he/she wants..

 

8. Never take someone for granted. Maybe by now, they are always there, doing ordinary things again and again and sometimes it doesn't make sense.But you'll never know the importance of that person until they choose to leave and you realized how badly you missed that person and all that 'non-sense' things that he/she used ...to do. For he/she is the only one who can turn 'ordinary' into something 'special' 

 

9. When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back. Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.

 

10. When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter.

When Man and Women Collide

Falling in love is always magical. It feels eternal, as if love will last forever. We naively believe that somehow we are exempt from the problems our parents had, free from the odds that love will die, assured that it is meant to be and that we are destined to live happily ever after.

But as the magic recedes and daily life takes over, it emerges that men continue to expect women to think and react like men, and women expect men to feel and behave like women. Without a clear awareness of our differences, we do not take the time to understand and respect each other. We become demanding, resentful, judgmental, and intolerant.

With the best and most loving intentions love continues to die. Somehow the problems creep in. The resentments build. Communication breaks down. Mistrust increases. Rejection and repression result. The magic of love is lost. We ask ourselves:

How does it happen?

Why does it happen?
 

Why does it happen to us?

To answer these questions our greatest minds have developed brilliant and complex philosophical and psychological models. Yet still the old patterns return. Love dies. It happens to almost everyone.

Each day millions of individuals are searching for a pa rtner to experience that special loving feeling. Each year, millions of couples join together in love and then painfully separate because they have lost that loving feeling. From those who are able to sustain love long enough to get married, only 50 percent stay married. Out of those who stay together, possibly another 50 percent are not fulfilled. They stay together out of loyalty and obligation or from the fear of starting over.

Very few people, indeed, are able to grow in love. Yet, it does happen. When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom. Through understanding the hidden differences of the opposite sex we can more successfully give and receive the love that is in our hearts. By validating and accepting our differences, creative solutions can be discovered whereby we can succeed in getting what we want. And, more important, we can learn how to best love and support the people we care about. Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.

One of the biggest differences between men and women is how they cope with stress. Men become increasingly focused and withdrawn while women become increasingly overwhelmed and emotionally involved. At these times, a man's needs for feeling good are differ ent from a woman's He feels better by solving problems while she feels better by talking about problems. Not understanding and accepting these differences creates unnecessary friction in our relationships.

Without the awareness that we are supposed to be different, men and women are at odds with each other. We usually become angry or frustrated with the opposite sex because we have forgotten this important truth. We expect the opposite sex to be more like ourselves. We desire them to "want what we want" and "feel the way we feel." We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways-the ways we react and behave when we love someone. This attitude sets us up to be disappointed again and in and prevents us from taking the necessary time to communicate lovingly about our differences.

Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way women do. We have forgotten that men and women are supposed to be different. As a result our relationships are filled with unnecessary friction and conflict.

Clearly recognizing and respecting these differences dramatically reduce confusion when dealing with the opposite sex. When you remember that men are from Mars and women are from Venus, everything can be explained.

(this is according to Man Are From Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray)

5 Surprising Facts That You Should Know About Women

1. Women value love, communication, beauty, and relationships.
They spend a lot of time supporting, helping, and nurturing one another. Their sense of self is defined through their feelings and the quality of their relationships. To share their personal feelings is much more important than achieving goals and success. Talking and relating to one another is a source of tremendous fulfillment.


2. They do not wear uniforms like the Men (to reveal their competence). On the contrary, they enjoy wearing a different outfit every day, according to how they are feeling. Personal expression, especially of their feelings, is very important. They may even change outfits several times a day as their mood changes.

3. On Women, everyone studies psychology and has at least a master's degree in counseling. They are very involved in personal growth, spirituality, and everything that can nurture life, healing,
and growth. Women is covered with parks, organic gardens, shopping centers, and restaurants. 


4. Women also known as Home-Improvement Committee. Their nature is to want to improve things. When they care about someone, they freely point out what can be improved and suggest how to do it. Offering advice and constructive criticism is an act of love.


5. Women talking about problems is not an invitation to offer a solution. Just by listening with empathy and interest it can be very supportive.

5 Amazing Facts You Should Know and Understand About Men

1. Men value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement. They are always doing things
to prove themselves and develop their power and skills.


2.Men don't read magazines like Psychology Today, Self, or People. They are more concerned
with outdoor activities, like hunt, fishing, and racing cars. They are interested in the news,
weather, and sports and couldn't care less about romance novels and self-help books. 

3. Men fantasize about powerful cars, faster computers, gadgets, gizmos, and new more powerful technology.


4. Men rarely talks about his problems unless he needs expert advice. He reasons: "Why involve someone else when I can do it by myself?" He keeps his problems to himself unless he requires help from another to find a solution. Asking for help when you can do it yourself is perceived as a sign of weakness.


5. Men also known as Mr. Fix-It. They are more solution oriented. If something is working, their motto is don't change it. Their instinct is to leave it alone if it is working. "Don't fix it unless it is broken" is a common expression

All About Man

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

The term man (pl. men) is used for an adult human male (the term boy is the usual term for a human male child or adolescent). However, man is sometimes used to refer to humanity as a whole.

The term manhood is used to describe the period in a human male's life after he has transitioned from boyhood, having passed through puberty, usually having attained male secondary sexual characteristics, and symbolises a male's coming of age. The word man is used to mean any adult male. In English-speaking countries, many other words can also be used to mean an adult male such as guy, dude, buddy, bloke, fellow, chap and sometimes boy or lad. The term manhood is associated with masculinity and virility, which refer to male qualities and male gender roles.

Biology and gender

Humans exhibit sexual dimorphism in many characteristics, many of which have no direct link to reproductive ability, although most of these characteristics do have a role in sexual attraction. Most expressions of sexual dimorphism in humans are found in height, weight, and body structure, though there are always examples that do not follow the overall pattern. For example, men tend to be taller than women, but there are many people of both sexes who are in the mid-height range for the species.

Some examples of male secondary sexual characteristics in humans, those acquired as boys become men or even later in life, are:

• more pubic hair around penis and under arms
• more facial hair
• larger hands and feet than women
• broader shoulders and chest
• larger skull and bone structure
• greater muscle mass
• a more prominent Adam's apple and deeper voice
• A longer Shinbone.

Reproductive system

Human male reproductive anatomy and surroundings.

The male sex organs are part of the reproductive system, consisting of the penis, testicles, vas deferens, and the prostate gland. The male reproductive system's function is to produce semen which carries sperm and thus genetic information that can unite with an egg within a woman. Since sperm that enters a woman's uterus and then fallopian tubes goes on to fertilize an egg which develops into a fetus or child, the male reproductive system plays no necessary role during the gestation. The concept of fatherhood and family exists in human societies. The study of male reproduction and associated organs is called andrology.

LIFE ON MARS (known as Man) according to John Gray

Martians value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement. They are always doing things to prove themselves and develop their power and skills. Their sense of self is defined through their ability to achieve results. They experience fulfillment primarily through success and accomplishment.

 

Everything on Mars is a reflection of these values. Even their dress is designed to reflect their skills and competence. Police officers, soldiers, businessmen, scientists, cab drivers, technicians, and chefs all wear uniforms or at least hats to reflect their competence and power.

 

They are more interested in "objects" and "things" rather than people and feelings. Even today on Earth, while women fantasize about romance, men fantasize about powerful cars, faster computers, gadgets, gizmos, and new more powerful technology Men are preoccupied with the "things" that can help them express power by creating results and achieving their goals.

 

Achieving goals is very important to a Martian because it is a way for him to prove his competence and thus feel good about himself. And for him to feel good about himself he must achieve these goals by himself.

All About Women

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

A woman (pl: women) is a female human. The term woman is usually reserved for an adult, with the term girlchild or adolescent. being the usual term for a female

Terminology

 Further information: girl, lady, mother, wife, goodwife, widow, maid, maiden, and virgin.

Womanhood is the period in a female's life after she has transitioned through childhood and adolescence, generally age 18.  The word woman can be used generally, to mean any female human, or specifically, to mean an adult female human as contrasted with girl. The word girl originally meant "young person of either sex" in English; it was only around the beginning of the 16th century that it came to mean specifically a femalechild. The term girl is sometimes used colloquially to refer to a young or unmarried woman, however during the early 1970s feminists challenged such use because the use of the word to refer to a fully grown woman may cause offence. In particular, previously common terms such as office girl are no longer used.

There are various words used to refer to the quality of being a woman. The term "womanhood" merely means the state of being a woman, having passed the menarche; "femininity" is used to refer to a set of supposedly typical female qualities associated with a certain attitude to gender roles; "womanliness" is like "femininity", but is usually associated with a different view of gender roles; "femaleness" is a general term, but is often used as shorthand for "human femaleness"; "distaff" is an archaic adjective derived from women's conventional role as a spinner, now used only as a deliberate archaism; "muliebrity" is a neologism (derived from the Latin) meant to provide a female counterpart of "virility", but used very loosely, sometimes to mean merely "womanhood", sometimes "femininity" and sometimes even as a collective term for women.

Biology and Sex 

In terms of biology, the female sex organs are involved in the reproductive system, whereas the secondary sex characteristics are involved in nurturing children or, in some cultures, attracting a mate. The ovaries, in addition to their regulatory function producing hormones, produce female gametes called eggs which, when fertilized by male gametes (sperm), form new genetic individuals. The uterus is an organ with tissue to protect and nurture the developing fetus and muscle to expel it when giving birth. The vagina is used in copulation and birthing (although the word vaginavulva or external female genitalia, which also includes the labia, the clitoris, and the female urethra). The breast evolved from the sweat gland to produce milk, a nutritious secretion that is the most distinctive characteristic of mammals, along with live birth. In mature women, the breast is generally more prominent than in most other mammals; this prominence, not necessary for milk production, is probably at least partially the result of sexual selection.

  LIFE ON VENUS (or know Women) according to John Gray

Venusians have different values. They value love, communication, beauty, and relationships. They spend a lot of time supporting, helping, and nurturing one another. Their sense of self is defined through their feelings and the quality of their relationships. They experience fulfillment through sharing and relating.


Everything on Venus reflects these values. Rather than building highways and tall buildings, the Venusians are more concerned w ith living together in harmony, community, and loving cooperation. Relationships are more important than work and technology. In most ways their world is the opposite of Mars (known as Man).


They enjoy wearing a different outfit every day, according to how they are feeling. Personal expression, especially of their feelings, is very important. They may even change outfits several times a day as their mood changes.


Communication is of primary importance. To share their personal feelings is much more important than achieving goals and success. Talking and relating to one another is a source of tremendous fulfillment.