10 Things What Turns Women Off

Dating can be tough. Every time you approach a woman you’re risking rejection, which can feel awful. But if you’re finding that you’re striking out most often, perhaps you’re doing some things that turn women off.

1. Being Shy

Most women are attracted to strong, confident men. Women understand that you’re a little nervous… that can be cute. But we have to see that you believe in yourself and that you’ve got the ability to be successful.

2. Being Boring

We don’t care about your model cars or your golf game. Strike up a conversation about something that interests us like current events, movies, or great restaurants. Show us that you’re well rounded and interesting or there’s no way we can imagine having dinner with you.

3. Looking Scruffy

Not all attractive men are drop dead gorgeous, but they do take care of their appearance. Your five o’clock shadow, dirty shoes and wrinkled shirt are such turn offs because they tell women that you simply don’t know how to take care of yourself. Go out looking clean and tidy and you’ll have much better luck with the ladies. If you’re meeting someone through adult personals, make sure your photo is top notch.

4. Being at a bar alone

If you’re alone in a bar and conspicuously trying to pick up women, ladies will get very suspicious. Guys in groups are more likely to put women at ease. Go out with both men and women, as well as singles and couples. Women flock to men who are enjoying themselves with friends.

5. Having Dodgy Friends

Even though I just suggested that you surround yourself with friends, be cautious about which friends you choose. Save your rude and rowdy friends for football games. Instead, head out to the bar with some of your more charming and polished friends. Whether you like it or not, who you are with can reflect positively or negatively on you.

6. Over-using a Female Wingman

I’m the first to encourage men to use their female friends to their advantage when trying to meet women. When a woman notices you, by all means, have one of your female friends casually let them know you are single. But for goodness sake, don’t have them trolling the bar for you. When women notice your tactic, you’ll end up looking like a sleazy guy who doesn’t have the balls to meet women on his own.

7. Being Boastful

There are many subtle ways to let women know that you are successful, such as your air of confidence and the way you dress. There is absolutely no need to tell women how much money you make and what a shark you are at your job. Boasting about how wonderful you are will turn women off faster than you can say "investment portfolio."

8. Talking only about yourself

Listen more than you talk. Keep your end of the conversation short and sweet and let her do most of the talking. Women have a lot more to say than men, and we’re always impressed by men who can actually listen and be engaged for any length of time. It’s a small thing but it will make a lasting first impression.

9. Being a zealot about your religious and political beliefs

When it comes to politics and religion, it’s very easy to offend and alienate someone with your views. Save your soap box rants for your next rally and aim for lighter and more amiable topics of discussion.

10. Using Corny Pick-Up Lines

Pick-Up lines are good for a laugh amongst friends but they’re rarely an effective way to make a connection with a woman. You end up coming off so inauthentic and slimy. Instead, start the evening armed with some great conversation starters. Just be your fun, interesting self and leave the pick-up lines to the comedians.

10 Things That Can Turn Off Man

Man have always wanted women to understand them and fully know them. This means women should make and effort to know their like and dislike

The “silent” treatment – most women have a tendency to use “silent” treatment when they are hurt or angry about a certain behavior in their man. They put on a cold front and refuse to reply in a normal manner. The usual reply to all the queries that a guy puts through would be a pert “nothing”. This is highly irritating to men and in many cases it makes them want to tear their hair off. A man would be much happier if his woman is willing to talk out the issues instead of starting a cold war.

Being a cold fish in the bed – Some women, through no fault of theirs, are completely unresponsive in the bed. A guy is bound to feel turned off and frustrated when he finds that he’s the only moving object on the bed. Sex is supposed to be playful and fun, entailing a lot of movements and noises. The more energetic it is, the more fun and pleasurable. There are many women have are very inhibited and shy about their sexuality which ends up making them act like a cold fish when in bed. Most men take it as a personal insult to their sexual prowess.

Facial and body hair growth – Men are hairy all over that’s the very reason why they are attracted to a hairless body in their woman (apart from the head hair and eye brows of course). Most men are turned on by waxed legs and arms, and they are equally turned off if they detect anything hairy on a woman’s body. Facial hair is a complete turn off for most men especially around the chin or lip area. This is not a judgment but a unconscious reaction.

Being overly possessive – Men are usually the “chasers” and they like to stay that way. If a guy finds out a girl is “chasing” him he is bound to lose his interest in her. To keep the guy interested the girl must remain to be a challenge. If she gets overly possessive about him it would just turn him off.

Too religious – Some women tend to get overly religious or spiritual which can be a huge turn off for men. It’s true that there are many men who are religious fanatics, who take their Gods too seriously, but these very men would find it a turn off to be with an overly religious woman, for very obvious reasons.

A nagging attitude – There is something about men that gets women to nag them especially as the relationship ages. Most men complain about the hard time they have contending with the continuous complaints and scorns that their wife dishes out in the name of “self improvement”. Women on the other hand have no clue what the fuss is all about, after all they are only trying to “improve” their man.

Too attached to her family – It’s quite a pain for most men to have to contend with their “in laws” owing to their wife’s obsessive attachment with her parents. There is nothing wrong with being attached to your parents as long as it does not start eating into the personal time that you should be spending with your husband, this is what most men feel. It’s quite frustrating for the guy to find his wife on phone with her mother through most of the evening.

Female chauvinism – A man and a woman are made in the image of god as the Bible puts it. And it’s quite obvious that a man needs a woman to complete him and vice versa. In spite of this there are certain people, in each sex, that end up becoming chauvinistic. A feministic attitude, or a bossy nature, in a woman is what men find extremely irritating, and it’s a big turn off. Many feminists would like men to conform to certain unnatural standards that are completely contrary to a manly nature, a woman who depicts such an attitude would soon find her man running away from her.

A lazy “home maker” – Men have been brought up to look at their woman as their home maker. There’s nothing chauvinistic about it because that was the natural order of things for a long time and it’s deeply embedded in male conditioning. So men love women who are good home makers and are turned off by a woman who expects the man to cook and clean. This may sound harsh to many feminists but this is what men feel inherently. Men are naturally quite bad at “home” management and so they rely on women to play this part in their life.

Too “career” oriented – There are many marriages that have gone into ruins because of the corporate culture of today’s age. It’s quite common for the husband and wife to be employed in most households, and this gives rise to many ego clashes and misunderstandings especially when the man finds his wife becoming too “career centric” to care for her family. Men have traditionally loved the feminine characteristics in a woman and being a home make is one of them. An overly career centric wife is usually a turn off for the man.

So these are the 10 common things that turn off most men. Women can come up with an infinite list of things about men that turns them off, because men quite easily can be the more obnoxious sex in more than one way. The fact remains that men and women complement each other and its beauty is most evident in an intimate, and healthy, relationship.